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I've been fairly much estranged from my father. He is in terribly failing health, and I want to help care for him. Do I address our conflict or just start showing up and pitching in?
— Sam from Philly
You mention "showing up and pitching in." That sounds like others are already there and providing care. I think you may want to speak with them first and then integrate yourself into the plan.
Unless you have already dealt with them about this issue, they may harbor some resentment. But making it clear that your good feelings towards your dad AND them are what's driving you to "pitch in" could go a long way in both healing some old wounds-- and getting your father the care he needs.
If problems continue, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a geriatric care manager.
Good luck! This could be a little tricky but also enormously rewarding.
Your guide,
Bobbi